Women and their hair

In this episode, Layla decides to put streaks in her hair but after her not-so-good result, she decides to wear the hijab to hide it from Baber.

Her hair actually looks good compared to other do-it-yourself jobs I’ve seen. For some reason, fathers always have a hard time dealing with changes that their daughters pursue to fit into the crowd. 

What’s your opinion on women dyeing hair? If you are a father, what’s your thought pattern? What’s allowed and what’s considered haram?



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33 responses to “Women and their hair

  1. The only hair dyeing that’s halal (for either men or women) is with henna. All other dyes are haraam.

  2. I don’t think we can so easily say something is haram if God hasn’t said so. The reason why so many say hair dye is haram is because of hadeeths, but God says nothing about hair dye.

    I think anyone should be able to have their hair look like whatever they want it to.

  3. Lin

    there’s nothing wrong with coloring one’s hair using other than henna, as long as the color is not black (since it was mentioned in the hadeeth)

    in Islam, the basic ruling of anything EXCEPT ibadat is harus (mubah), unless there’s a daleel that says it’s haram to do so

  4. To my understanding, there is nothing that prohibits a Muslim from using hair dye (henna or otherwise). The only exception that I have found is in a book called “The Lawful And The Prohibited In Islam” by Yusuf Al-Qaradawi. The book states that men who are of very old age (and who look very old) should not dye their hairs black. For more info on this, you could check out http://www.islamicity.com and do a hadith search for the term “hair dye” or the like.

  5. aneta

    Hello everyone!
    I am a Christian and I was born in Poland.
    My father used to control my make up in the same way as Barber.
    I think such behaviour has more to do with difficulties about accepting the fact daughters grow up than anything else:-)

  6. JDsg, that’s weird… I’ve never heard that before… my dad’s, who is WAY strict, let me streak my hair bright fuschia (actually, he didn’t let me, but my mom did and I got it done anyway and by that time it was too late for him to say no :P).

  7. ecb

    I’m not Muslim and so want to be as culturally sensitive as possible — but it seems as though hair dyeing of any form just shouldn’t be that big a deal. It’s a totally impermanent way to rebel, unlike piercings and tattoos (drugs, sex). My mom would have freaked out if I had ever dyed my hair when I was a teenager (and fortunately for her, I was the nerdy non-rebellious type), but it seems like there are way bigger battles to fight with teens, and that if one doesn’t let them rebel in small ways, they will find more harmful ways to do so. Layla is just trying to find ways to fit in, but is kept in check by a father who usually is understanding when it comes down to it. Baber, obviously, has to keep her in check at times in order to be a good parent. However, part of being a good parent is knowing how to talk to your child about _why_ they want to do this thing rather than simply shutting them down with “because I said so,” or worse, “because it’s sinful/shameful.” Those non-arguments, from any mouth, lose their weight the more often they’re used.

  8. Right now, I am in Sarajevo BiH, which as most readers here will know is mostly a Muslim city. A lot of women dye their hair, what I understand is that in the Muslim religion, it’s alright to do things to make oneself attractive to one’s husband.
    Henna isn’t all that easy to get here so far as I’ve seen.
    Women dye their hair more often with artificial dyes. I don’t like those dyes, because of health reasons. I do myself use henna, I have used both red henna and the so-called black henna from Syria which actually is indigo.
    Interestingly in nearby Albania I read that the Christians used to dye their hair black with gentian root, and the Muslims used to use henna to dye their hair red, most Albanians have lighter hair color to start with.
    A question here, Baber is Layla’s father, he can see her without a scarf right? So another off detail on the show, he’d KNOW she had her hair dyed!
    I don’t want to keep badgering on minor details, but I am a stickler for good research. I was trained that way as a writer, that even if you write fiction the research must be top-notch, even for comedy, it should be, so that it’s believable enough to work.
    I still like the show.

  9. aneta

    Barber said to Leyla that she didnt have to wear her scarf at home. You nust have missed that 🙂
    Warm greetings from Warsaw to another Slavic woman in the forum!

  10. Farah

    Hair dying is not forbidden. Women are dyeing their hair all the time in the Middle East, and Henna is also about dyeing the hair, so it’s not a big deal if a muslim woman wanted to be blonde or a redhead.

    Babar’s reaction was mostly about fathers’ inability to see their daughters grow up and become women.

  11. Hmmph. Just wrote a whole comment and hit the wrong button. Here goes again!

    I thought the Layla/hijab issue was handled very well. When we live in our parents’ house, we have to do what they say, but it is unwise for a father to pressure his daughter to wear hijab. If she does it just to get him off her back, she will resent it later and will probably just take it off when she gets to college. When Babur stopped pressuring her, realizing that her inner piety was more important, Layla began to enjoy the hijab because it was her own choice. It was very sweet, and very realistic, the way the situation was portrayed. And she looked very beautiful in that color!

  12. Steve

    “When Babur stopped pressuring her, realizing that her inner piety was more important, Layla began to enjoy the hijab because it was her own choice.”

    No, it wasn’t her realizing that her inner piety was more important that made Layla enjoy the hijab. It was when the popular girl at school said that she liked how Layla looked in the hijab that she started to enjoy the hijab.

    She is just wearing it just because it’s now fashionable.

  13. Farah

    I agree with Steve, Layla is a typical teenage girl. Girls in Saudi Arabia wear colorful abaya/hijab because it’s fashinable, even little girls now urge their mothers to buy them colored abayas with Chanel or Burbury brands. It’s all about fashion, not inner piety.

  14. alina

    dying ur hair using henna and katam is allowed in islam.All other colours are allowed except for black.The question is,does the artificial hair dyes allow water to pass through the hair or does it prevent water which therefore the abolution won’t be ‘sah’ in islam.Do let me know if anyone has the answer to it.

  15. Yeah, yeah, this show is sooo funny. And Barber sure he might be a fundamental Muslim but they aren’t really bad.

    Well, real life says otherwise.

    Just ask Aqsa Parvez. Oh, that’s right, you can’t. Her father killed her.

    IF this show wanted to portray the REALITY of Muslims in Canada, well perhaps a show where Baber kills Layla. But then it would be hard to write a comedy around that, wouldn’t it!

  16. I wasn’t aware that the “reality” of any place, but especially Canada, was that Muslim fathers regularly kill their daughters…

    Baber represents the “real” majority of fundie Muslims, they are upset about a lot of things but they don’t use violence to get their message across. (If every fundie Muslim was violent, we’d all be dead by now.)

    But filicide is an aberration, not a normal occurrence. And it is definitely not a Muslim practice or invention. Just ask the Smiths’, the Yates’, the Benoits’ or any of these kids. Oh yeah, that’s right, you can’t. Their parents killed them.

  17. Alex

    Banaz Mahmod, 20, was strangled with a boot lace, stuffed into a suitcase and buried in a back garden.

    Her death is the latest in an increasing trend of such killings in Britain, home to some 1.8 million Muslims. Britain has seen more than 25 women killed by their Muslim relatives in the past decade for offenses they believed brought shame on the family. More than 100 other homicides are under investigation as potential honor killings

  18. Alex

    Ok, we see it in Canada, in the UK, well how about Sweden?

    Yep, just ask Fadime Sahindal.

    Well again, of course you can’t.

  19. Greg

    Actually I could make that a comedy. Albeit a very dark one.

    After Baber kills Layla, Amaar goes to the mayor and the Constable to try to get him released.

    He explains how what he did was just following Muslim tenets. And to jail him for killing Layla would be jailing him for being a Muslim.

    Amaar: And you aren’t against Muslims, are you Ms. Mayor? You aren’t prejudiced against us.

    Mayor: Well, well, well of course not. Let him go Constable.

    Constable: But Mayor he just kill..

    Mayor interupts: No buts, you aren’t racist Constable are you?

    Constable: Well of course I am not. Here out, you go. Please accept my apology Baber.

    Baber: Well you should apologize.

    Amaar: Let’s go now Baber.

    As they leave the police station Amaar turns to Rayyan ” What are you thinking?”

    Rayyan: ” I was just wondering if you are really a very good lawyer or if Canada is just a very stupid country”.

    (Please don’t think I am just picking on Canada. The entire West has been infected with Political Correctness which has made it do some very stupid things. After all in America we had OJ who we let out even though he was guilty of killing his wife.)

  20. Greg

    “(If every fundie Muslim was violent, we’d all be dead by now.)”

    Give them time. They think in a different time frame than the microwave mentality of the West.

    When I mean microwave mentality I mean we think in minutes and seconds. You know pop your dinner in the microwave and two minutes later its done. And if something happened last year, well that was a long, long time ago for us.

    Whereas these people think in decades and centuries. For them, if something happened 1000 years ago they perceive it as happening last week. Heck, they are still mad at the west for the Crusades.

  21. Greg

    They are indeed a very patient people. They are no doubt in the shadows ploting, planning and waiting for the best time to strike again.

    We think if it hasn’t happened in the last 5-6 years it won’t happen again. They on the otherhand don’t think in months or years, but in decades.

  22. Susan

    I think it is interesting how the fate of Aqsa Parvez has been totally under-reported in Canada.

    The Murder of Aqua Parvez



    You would think that there would be some mention of her in the show. When eleven people died at a rock concert in Cincinnati in 1979 there was a comedy that was on around the same time called “WKRP in Cincinnati” about a rock station that happened to be set in Cincinnati. Even though the show was a comedy they made a point of having an episode mentioning the tragedy.

    So why can’t “Little Mosque on the Prairie have an episode where they all get together and discuss their shock and horror about hearing about what happened to Aqua Parvez?

  23. Under-reported? I’m not aware of any person who hasn’t heard about “the girl killed over hijab”.

    I also don’t see why any (rational) person would think there should be a mention of her in this show. Even if they did such a show, would it change any of the previous commenters’ opinions about Muslims? Not a chance. This is just another issue used to attack…

    We’re speaking out and continue to speak out; you’re just not listening. Too bad!

  24. Steve

    If WKRP in Cincinnati could have an episode about the people who died at the Who concert, why couldn’t Little Mosque on the Prairie have a show where the Muslims in Mercy get together and talk about what they felt when they heard about Aqsa Parvez’s death?

  25. Muslim

    That girl wasn’t killed over hijab, google Canadian girl NOT killed over hijab. All of her sisters didn’t wear it. Why aren’t they dead morons. Wait for the trial before you convict people.

  26. seekerofthesacred

    One of the people who commented mentioned that we should not declare things Haram based on Ahadith, rather on what Allah has said. I say that your statement is absurd. Allah says “Whatever the Messenger gives you, take it and whatever he forbids you from, leave it”. If the Messenger forbade it, then according to GOD we are to leave it.

  27. Nahida

    “there’s nothing wrong with coloring one’s hair using other than henna, as long as the color is not black (since it was mentioned in the hadeeth)”

    As long as the hair color isn’t black, or as long as the dye isn’t black?


  28. Nahida

    nvm the questions been answered… I didn’t look at the rest of the comments before I asked. =X

  29. Gene

    Many of you have heard about a Best Buy ad that that wished American Muslims a “Happy Eid al Adha.”

    Muslims need to understand that this isn’t so much about Eid al Adha but about the double standard that exists today with Christian symbols and expressions being practically banned in our society but expressions of other faiths, particularly Islam being expressed.

    We see it in the schools and now we see it in the shopping centers. There is a war on Christmas going on (while at the same time stories are cashing in on Christmas spending).

    Last year in the UK a Muslim organization defended Christmas and said that expressions of Christmas during this time shouldn’t be banned in their country. This is quite appreciated and I hope they do the same this year.

    Best Buy will wish American Muslims a “Happy Eid al Adha” but will not dare use the word “Merry Christmas” in their advertisement. I wish Christians would stick to their principles and boycott Best Buy.

    And I would hope that Muslims realize that this isn’t necessarily an act against them but a defense of Christianity and a fight against the ever increasing war against Christmas in our society.

  30. great nice and wonderful mehndi desing thaanks forshariong i must say you are very cr5eative write

  31. i really like to color my hair and i would love to try different hair colors specially auburn *~:

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